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Parent Coaching Tip: Referees Beware!

I'm Not Having Fun Now!

I'm Not Having Fun Now!

It seems kids are always bickering with each other.  How do we stop it?  In 3 words: Step In Less.  When you solve for X in their equations and struggles, you deny them practice they need to learn to work things out. 

Imagine it:  Three boys 6-8 playing hide n seek.  One gets smack happy and the other two start saying that “as a consequence” they will count very quickly or with their eyes open because they are not happy with this treatment.  Things quickly deteriorate.                                                                             

Would You:

A.  Say nothing; let them work it out (unless it comes to blows)

B.  Tell the one who was hitting to cut it out

C.  Tell the “victims’ to move on and stop being mean

D.  Offer to guide them in working it out, until they can do this part on their own

A, B and C all miss out on the group empowerment available in option D.  But Referees beware, don’t try this without proper training or you just end up enabling them to wait for the hero to save them from conflict.  Handling conflict is, BTW, the main skill being developed here. 

The Actual Conversation That Helped:

Are you all having fun?  No.  Do you need to give consequences to each other?  No.  What do you sound like?  A Parent.  What could you do instead?  Ask to make new Agreements.  OK, Who’s first?  They each offered an Agreement:  Hands Off, Count Slow, and Close Eyes.  They all agreed and then were off to the races. 

Two of the three kids families know the Licensed2Parent program, so at this point, these talks go much more quickly nowadays.  This could be you and yours!

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August 11, 2009 at 11:36 pm Leave a comment

See Dawn Roth Live! The 6 Min Look At Her Parenting Crash Course

The calendar is booking up with folks wanting their community to experience The Parenting Crash Course.  We will be appearing at private schools, preschools, birth centers, womanhood/pregnancy spas, mom’s groups, performing arts schools, women’s conferences, community centers, transitional living centers for foster care youth and many more.

To see if your group can get a spot, share this link then contact us for details. 

It is a no cost way to offer value to your families and give them a way to create peace and teamwork at home.  In this economy how valuable would that be?  One Mom just reported this:  4 Days in Orlando, 3 Parks, 2 kids under 6, 1 privilege at risk = 0 POWER STRUGGLES!  Find out what that is all about.

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March 24, 2009 at 4:34 pm 2 comments

Parent Plan: Know What You Say

Most conflict in families are caused by Power Struggles, agreed?  Well what if you were causing ,say, half without even realizing it?  Would you want to know?  Good, I want to tell you.  It’s how you talk to your kids that is the problem.  You wouldn’t drive to work in reverse, so why are you asking a child “Can we go now?” or “Do you want to take a bath?”

These are the Communication Gears.  Knowing them makes for less upsets in families, period.  Suggest things that are low key.  Whatever dude.  Request when you are OK with getting NO or a COUNTER OFFER, and don’t when you aren’t!  When it is time to be the parent, make a Demand and be consistent, but use sparingly!  Commands are for saftey and danger.  Yell when you need to alert, not just to let off steam!!!! 

Now we can use this knowledge to teach our family or manipulate them.  Can you recognize the difference? 

Suggestions can be sweet OR sarcastic

Requests are made powerfully OR with a pretense

Demands convey respect OR dominatation

Commands imply concern OR exasperation

Start listening to How you say What you say.  Both mean something.  When your message and meaning match, you get better results.  To learn more on the entire family plan, visit the website and look for the Build A Better Family Starter Kit:  http://www.licensed2parent.com/services.html

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January 6, 2009 at 6:13 am Leave a comment

Parent Coaching: Affordable, On Demand Service

Parent Support is a phone call away!

Parent Support is a phone call away!

Parents love my program.  They get results and want to know how to fully put it to use in their own family.  Up to now, the best way to do that was to attend a live event (not always convenient) or work with me in the home as your personal coach (not always in the budget).  These options were limited in how far the program could reach and that was my biggest concern.  I am compelled to get this message to the families who want and need it!  Now I can…

If you ever wished you had access to an expert Parent Coach when your parenting went haywire or your results were awful, this is the program for you.  The Pre Paid Parent Coaching program gives you affordable yet on demand support when you need it.  Under $20 per month gets you 30 to 60 minutes on the phone with a Parent Coach working on a parent plan custom for your family plus discounts on tools, products, hourly coaching and live events.  There is nothing else out there like it. 

All your questions and curiosity can be handled on the website www.licensed2parent.com then click the button for Pre Paid Parent Coaching.  Please share this post with the next parent that complains to you or is frustrated about being a parent.  They are doing the best they can, yet if they are willing to take a look at their own behavior, their best can get better very quickly!

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November 23, 2008 at 10:59 pm Leave a comment

Licensed 2 Parent Backstory

Dawn Roth

Telling the background story of Licensed 2 Parent gives a sense of the past, present and future of the vision. Parents often ask me how I learned what I coach them to integrate into their families. The answer seems a little silly. I was the teenage babysitter that you told all your friends about (or kept for your own little secret). After you left, I taught them something educational, organized some aspect of your home and when you got home I usually had a little coaching for you about a behavior I noticed. Who was that teenager? I had plenty of work for a decade.

As an undergrad, I also worked full-time as a child care teacher. I would daily coach parents and they would get great results. Parents would spent 30 minutes chatting and wait around for me to finish with the parent ahead of them to discuss their latest challenge. As a natural observer of family behavior and a student of development, it fascinated me to see what worked or didn’t.

With my BA in Elementary Education, I taught for 9 years. That was where I put to practice so many of the concepts that became the essence of the program. But had I not diversified into my Organizing Consulting business, Get Squared Away, Inc. I would not have added the critical aspect of practical application. For the past seven years (and now through trained consultants) I worked with people in their homes and offices on how to get things done and consistently get results. Each of my clients with family connections also got Parenting Coaching as an added benefit.

It was these amazing people and the friends and associates who saw my passion for families and knack for results who demanded I begin collecting my ideas into a program families could learn. They are a stand my first book gets written because this message is not sitting on a shelf somewhere, yet. (I am 1/3 complete with that project!)

The future? Licensed 2 Parent. I have a team, tools, products, events, and a growing web presence to guide families but I want more. I see parents who don’t need a licensed mastering the 31 Parent Skills to earn the first ones, so that we can prove the benefits over time. Once this happens, we attract the interest of public and private sectors to provide incentives and rewards for those families that are struggling to raise contributing individuals. These rewards could be tax breaks, school vouchers, reduced child care costs, health care credits for Licensed Parents. When we get to that point, I am fine if my program is not the one chosen to provide licensing, my mark on the world will be that we raise the standard on raising children.

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October 24, 2008 at 5:23 pm 1 comment


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