Parent Coaching Tip: Are You To Blame? YES!
July 6, 2009
Do you take credit for the job you do?
I have news for parents. It IS all your fault.
Your children are not flawed or incapable of minding you. But parents do care about how kids turn out, so it is hard to stand there and say; I did this, I’m the reason I don’t like my own child. As a Parent Coach, I hear many excuses for kid’s behavior. Sick, tired, big day coming up, letters next to their name. This keeps the pressure off the parents when the fan is on and things are hitting it. I get that.
What I don’t get is the opposite effect. When parents I coach get results, (happens everytime, yes, everytime) they will ”blame” something else for the turnaround they created!
One client visited an extended family who’s parenting they admire, and was surprised when the Aunt gave them a glowing parenting compliment, then shared it around the family! They insisted it was just luck that it was a quiet day for their child! NOT!
I just got off the phone with someone who’s two year old hit in frustration and had a meltdown 3 times a week. It was so hard for Mom to endure. Now this child may hit when thwarted, but then without a word, they go off to the sit spot for some thinking time on their own then stay there until invited back. WOW! Dad felt the hitting should be over by now, PLUS they had not realized or congratulated themselves on major progress! This child has stopped losing control and is trusting the system they put in place.
I’m getting to work making sure parents know they are both the reason and solution for their parenting struggles; furthermore, they need to feel OK to claim bragging rights when they become the rocking parents they dreamed they could be! Find some rocking parents yourself and compliment them today. But don’t let them tell you it’s the weather or the economy…
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My mission is to cause a monumental shift in parenting as we know it! Wanna help?
dawnroth
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