Parent Coach Tip: Kids Can’t Demand-Or Can They?
February 19, 2009
Kids & Destiny
I am happy to have had Sonia in my life for the past “school year,” but more than that, I am honored that she has chosen to join the team at Licensed 2 Parent as a Parent Coach Intern. She has taken on learning a lot and shows a true passion for families and creating peace by example. I have asked her to ocasionally contribute to the blog with her own experiences along the way! She writes about a particularly cool moment:
Why can’t I demand?! My 5 year old son wants to know. We teach that parents are allowed to make Demands. Children are taught to powerfully Request, but Demands (of their parents or others) are not acceptable. During a weekend Intensive I attend for Self Discovery, I considered another answer. When I do inner work to move myself forward, I DEMAND of myself to be my best, my highest, my greatest, etc.
Wait a minute, can’t kids can demand of themselves? They can demand anything they want of themselves. When I shared this with my son, he liked it! I saw the empowerment he felt. It removed the separation that ONLY a parent (or small baby) can Demand.
Later, he said, “Hey, I can demand of myself without saying please!”
“Absolutely, kid, absolutely!” When will you talk with your kids and let them know they can demand? … of themselves!
Sonia Hankin, MHC, CIC
Certified Integrative Coach
www.theglobalheart.org/soniahankin
Parent Coach Intern
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